Consistent--To be or not to be?

Ephesians 5:15  Look therefore carefully how ye walk, not as unwise, but as wise; 16)  redeeming the time, because the days are evil. 17)  Wherefore be ye not foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.
     Last week reading a fellow Christian sister's blog (Cindy Colley) she pointed out the inconsistencies in some of our beliefs.  I found it humorous, and yes, I find inconsistencies in my own thoughts and actions.
     Having said that women need to be keepers at home, I find that if given the choice between (and this is if all things are equal) choosing a female or a male doctor--I prefer a female.  I don't think of anywhere else that it makes a difference, but therein lies the question.  Yes, I do believe that it is not only proper, but a good work for women to minister to other women.  So, how does the balance come? 
     Back in the day --early pioneer days--, many young women were hired (for example) as teachers.  Once they married most of them left the teaching profession.  Household duties were onerous, and reason would stand that trying to do both would lead to poor quality of work on one or the other jobs.  Indeed, it still is true.  As my mother used to say, "To do more than one thing at a time is to do nothing--well".  It never has stopped being true.
     Christians used to cringe when women's liberation proponents would throw out the old adage, they just want to keep women barefoot and pregnant.  To prove that this wasn't the case young women were encouraged by many to go to college--not to get a job...  only to be educated.  Only to prove that old adage false.  Only to...there were a few old fuddy duddy elders who resisted this way of thinking.  It would lead to women leaving the home and family and their God-given sphere, these men said.  They were just fuddy duddy old men, who wanted to keep women barefoot and pregnant. 
     Again, it isn't wrong for women to minister to other women.  Another thing that happened back in the day--women were mid-wives.  They aided the doctors as well as delivering babies. 
     Titus 2:3  that aged women likewise be reverent in demeanor, not slanderers nor enslaved to much wine, teachers of that which is good; 4)  that they may train the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5)  to be sober-minded, chaste, workers at home, kind, being in subjection to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed:
     Reading the text it addresses the attitude of the aged women--reverent and sober, then it gives areas of their influence: teachers of that which is good --and to whom they may minister: train young women--and what they are to teach: love their husbands, love their children: to be sober minded, chaste, workers at home, (also) to be kind, and in subjection to their own husbands--and for what reason?  That the Word of God be not blasphemed.
     Part of why we see a rise in marital problems is a lack of respect.   Men don't respect women nearly as much as they once did.  Women were encouraged to climb down off their pedestals, which they did.  When that happened all of humankind followed suite.  Men became more base, and women rolled in the mud and grime and became unsavory as well...
     So where does this all lead?  Some inconsistencies are inconsistencies, and some just appear to be inconsistent.  Yesterday I made an appointment with a new (for me) osteopath--she is an eighty something woman.  I'm sure she no longer has children at home--can she minister to others? 
     Philippians 3:14  I press on toward the goal unto the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. 15)  Let us therefore, as many as are perfect, be thus minded: and if in anything ye are otherwise minded, this also shall God reveal unto you:
    It is important that each one that is trying to please God acknowledge God as the authority.  Instead of saying (to me) you can't tell me what to do...that is correct, but certainly God can.  Start with simple prayer.  "God, I know that I sometimes am willful.  I often times want to do what I want to do, so take over the reins in my life.  God help me to follow where you want me to go." 
     As someone put it lately: I know this is from you, God.  I don't pray that you will remove it.  Just help me through it.